I know I’ll need to revisit this topic, but it’s imperative that I write about it today.
#metoo stands front and center in my mind. It has repeatedly and unwillingly been shoved in my face since my adolescence. Today, on this day, December 13, 2017, it’s hard to ignore its influence and shifting power.
Yesterday and today, #METOO stood in CAPS in my head. When I walked into my gynecologist’s office this morning, she stopped, looked at me, and said:
“Karen Craven you have been on my mind.”
To which I smiled.
She continued, “Ever since #metoo started, you have been in my thoughts. I’ve been thinking about what that bastard did to you. Whatever happened to him?”
“Nothing,” I said, and wondered how she read my mind.
In so many words, I told her I made peace with it. I didn’t have much of a choice at that time. The unpleasantness of the moment shifted as we moved on to last night’s election in Alabama, which I like to believe is the beginning of many karmic events that will shit-kick the hell out of the “pussy grabbers” of the world, including the president.
We were grateful that goodness and common sense prevailed to help elect Doug Jones to the U.S. Senate. I also credit #metoo for the win, because even in the darkest hour, I believe that good will ALWAYS trump evil (even when it takes a generation or more to happen). Things take time when they are as pervasive as this:
- #metoo does not discriminate by gender, ethnicity, geography, socio-economic status, or eye color.
- #metoo targets the owners of open hearts, those with empathy for fellow human beings, with innocence and purity of spirit, and with goodness and love in their souls.
- #metoo is not about sex, it is ALL about power.
- #metoo’s perpetrators are weak and prey on good people, with big hearts, stealing their goodness and scarring the owners for life.
- #metoo’s actions are craven; the perps commit indefensible acts, that are so sadly allowable in our society, that only a movement and a global change in consciousness will prevent these vile actions from happening.
This country is currently represented by the vilest and despicable man to ever hold elected office. He does NOT represent American values. He doesn’t represent what it means to be human. This admitted pussy grabber is no role model for my child.
“The nation doesn’t seek nor expect perfect presidents, and some have certainly been deeply flawed. But a president who shows such disrespect for the truth, for ethics, for the basic duties of the job and for decency toward others fails at the very essence of what has always made America great.”
USA Today Editorial, Will Trump’s lows ever hit rock bottom?, December 12, 2017
And that’s what I believe voters stood up to last night. Yesterday, Alabama voters declined the offer of allowing continued misogynistic behavior and instead reclaimed the goodness that was robbed from them. They reclaimed their power. And to every person who supported a child molester, I am sorry that goodness trumping evil is such a bitter pill to swallow.
When I started this blog, I recalled an exercise from news writing 101 when I was in journalism school at NIU. We had to write our own obituary. Mine read something like this:
“Ms. Craven was the next generation Mike Royko, a lifelong Chicagoan who loved this city as if it were her fifth sibling…”
I didn’t become the next Mike Royko. I stopped writing about things that mattered: about my family, about my city, about 80th and Francisco, about St. Thomas More, about Maria High School, about Hayes Park, about Marquette Park, about the South Side Irish, and more. Every time my goodness was robbed from me, my voice became that much quieter, until I was eventually very close to being permanently muted. For the record, the perpetrator wasn’t always a white male. #metoo offenders included women, too, and in my case one was a nun, two were editors, and one was a doctor.
One way we can take the high road and keep the #metoo movement positive is by muting the perpetrators. Let’s change the conversation. Last night’s loser is history. I don’t want to utter his filthy name, to hear it, or to read it. My doctor and I never mentioned the loser; we only spoke of Jones and the positivity of this moment.
To every man and woman who cast a vote for Doug Jones yesterday, I thank you. And on behalf of the millions of other men and women, who identify with #metoo, those votes will help all of us reclaim our goodness.
Suddenly, #metoo doesn’t feel ugly anymore, instead, it feels good and powerful. Thank you, Alabama for your stellar example of how to Make America Great Again.